Slow sex


Sexual energy is the most powerful energy there is. Let’s fucking own it! 

How can we decolonise our (sexual) conditioning and break through unhealthy patterns so that we can fully unfold our (sexual) potential? 

The Slow Sex Experience empowers you to connect deeply to yourself, to feel what is present in you in each moment and to communicate your boundaries in a non-violent way. In a safe space we experience how intimacy and connection can be created in almost an instant even with a complete stranger or with a long term partner and how we can transform the sexual energy that might arise in an encounter for healing. 

You will learn how to access and listen to your most hidden sexual desires and how to build a healthy and respectful relationship with your body – which is a sacred temple, a portal to immense pleasure and joy, a highway to heaven…

The Slow Sex Experience is an eye opening and healing experience for everyone who is longing for creating a new kind of sexuality. A sexuality that is about deep intimacy and connection to the higher source, cultivating creativity and enhancing life energy.

  • breaking patterns and conditioning of your sexual behaviour
  • learning how to access your ‘full body yes’ and your ‘full body no’
  • setting and expressing boundaries in a non violent way
  • figuring out what you actually like

You are highly encouraged to take the tools you will be provided with out of the context of sexuality and to translate them into your every day life. It will transform all your relations!

The key is going slowly and without goal orientation: We need to take out speed big times in order to be able to feel what is really alive in us. Let’s explore which realms open up if we consciously chose to switch off google body and take another route other than the ‘highway to orgasm’

An important tool we work with is communication:  We need to learn how to communicate our needs, desires, boundaries in a healthy way.

A new realm we explore is energetic love making combined with breath work. You are being invited to move beyond the physical body and explore:

  • How we can touch each other without using physical touch
  • How we can move and play with energies
  • How we can use our breath as guide and guardian
  • Heart Sharing: We start and finish the Slow Sex Experience all together. That is absolutely crucial for the space to be safe. 
  • Meditation & Breath work: Before we dive into the exercises we take a moment to ground, to tune in with ourselves, the space we are in and the group. 
  • Exercises: We flow organically into the exercises. Some of them are on an energetic level, others are hands on and some might involve nudity. Every exercise is merely an invitation. You decide for yourself how far you want to go.
  • Relaxation: The space is open afterwards for journaling, to dance, do yoga, meditate or simply to hang out and have some tea & snacks. 


  • Love Jam: Following the workshop we will open the space for a LOVE JAM – to practice what you’ve learned 🙂 


Katjalisa is one of the three co-founders of Tours that Matter. She has studied Anthropology in Amsterdam and has done in depth research in the Red Light District for almost a decade about ‘sex as a good of consumption’. She’s been the first one to introduce the concept of the slow sex in the RLD.

Next to her academic background, she is also trained in somatic work, bio-energetics, yoni massage, yoga, meditation, mindfulness and non-violent communication. She has many years of experience in creating a safe space in which everyone feels seen, loved and respected. Her way of working is edgy and yet very accessible. She playfully gets people out of their comfort zone and invites them to open up to new experiences. Her authenticity is contagious and her power empowers others.


Amir is the founder of the Inner Work-Out. He has served for five years in a special force unit of the Israeli Defence Forces, where he experienced the synchronicity and connection of an organic team, as well as the endless pain and sufferings of a conflict. Later, he realised the impact of dialogue, and witnessed how it can bring healing, accelerate growth and build real human connections, both in, and outside of the business world. The essence of the future he is trying to create allows deep dialogue, full presence with each other and ownership of our personal growth. Amir holds a degree in organisational Psychology with complementary experience in Theory U, SPT (embodied meditation), and Mediation.

  • All gender and sexual orientations welcome
  • There won’t be any actual penetration happening at any point of the evening 
  • The Slow Sex Experience is a space for healing. However, the intention is not to dive into trauma work. If you are aware of a sexual past trauma please contact me before the event. I might advise you to first see a professional trauma therapist. 
  • You can come alone or with your partner. If you come as a couple please discuss beforehand if you are open to share experiences with others and clarify the boundaries within your relationship. If you are in a monogamic relationship you can chose to do all the exercises with your partner. 
  • Come as you are – whether you are feeling grumpy, unsocial and totally unsexy that day – the Slow Sex Experience can help you to reconnect to yourself and to shift your energy.
  • You are welcome to wear sexy clothes if that’s what you feel like for that night. But you can totally also come in your pyjamas  – the most important thing is that you are comfortable in what you are wearing
  • Yes, taking a shower before sounds like a good idea and is for sure appreciated by everyone around. If you tend to sweat a lot in exciting situations please bring a small towel.
  • The Slow Sex Experience is not a ‘pick up’ place. It’s about connecting with an open heart without specific intentions or ‘end’ goal. However, if you had a special moment with someone and you would like to meet that person again or simply express afterwards through a voice msg/ email / phone call etc your gratitude for that encounter – go ahead!
  • You can always reach out to me for more in depth personal guidance/ advice/ inspiration

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If you have any questions, please contact our Community Manager Sophie Brokmann through: or +316 242 806 58. Also please feel free to get in touch with us for more in depth personal guidance, advice and inspiration.

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