How to create a culture of trust, unity & solidarity?
In his article, the world after coronavirus, the Israeli historian Yuval Noah Harari talks about the importance of regaining trust towards political leaders, scientists, institutions and the media. Only if we restore trust, if we start acting again as unity, we will be able to make those smart choices we need to make at the moment in order to come up with constructive answers to this global problem.
Let’s start by (re-)building trust in our personal and professional relationships.
When I facilitate workshops or retreats, I observe a very interesting phenomena – people that have just met for the very first time feel comfortable to share their most intimate feelings, desires, fears and hopes with each other. Within a short amount of time there is built such a deep level of trust between strangers that some friends or even couples never get to experience in a lifetime.
What is the secret?
The secret is very simple – instead of telling each other stories of who we (think we) are, what we do, etc. we try to meet in a ‘non-story place’. There are different exercises that help us to get into this ‘story-free’ place. One of the most effective ones is the so called ‘sharing from the heart‘.
How does that work?
In a ‘family group’ of 3-5 people you meet every day, week or month. Each person gets to speak for 4 minutes without being interrupted by the others. In those 4 minutes you get to say whatever you feel right now in this very moment. Don’t think of what to say beforehand, don’t prepare. Just be and see what comes up. The storyline, the outcome doesn’t matter. What matters is the courage to speak from the heart, to fully express yourself with all there is.
Just think of Anne Frank – what is so powerful about her story? What touches us so deeply is her purity, her honesty, her vulnerability, her authenticity.
“If only I can be myself, I’ll be satisfied“, she writes in one of her entries. However, being yourself seems to be the hardest for most people. We make so much effort to edit selfies and to shape the stories we tell ourselves and others. What for? To be liked? To be followed? To be perceived as pretty, smart, powerful, successful, to be all the things we have been told to be for so long? How do we create a new culture of trust, unity and solidarity?
Let’s start by taking off the masks. A story shared from the heart is one of the most powerful ways to regain trust. We understand that we are all just a human amongst humans.
Within the next weeks, Katjalisa is going to offer FREE GUIDED SHARINGS.
- Each sharing lasts about 30min.
- Max 5 people per group.
- Language will be English.
Please reserve your spot by sending us an email to firstname.lastname@example.org We will send you an invitation with a link to join the sharing.
If you want to try this tool as a family, a group of friends or as a team of colleagues please set up a private sharing session by sending an email to: email@example.com